The maker of the video, Jason Headly, posted a short comment, “‘Don't try to fix it. I just need you to listen.’ Every man has heard these words. And they are the law of the land. No matter what.” I know that there exist differences in how men and women communicate, but I don’t think the need to be heard is solely feminine. Years ago, an uncited study revealed that women speak an average of 20,000 words per day compared to men’s 7,000. Newer research casts doubt on these numbers, indicating that we could speak more similar numbers of words per day, depending on our setting. I believe men need to be heard, too, they have things on their chest, and they need a good listening ear--they just don’t want to share it when the game is on.
To be a good friend, we must be a good listener. To be a good spouse, we must be a good friend. Even when the solution is obvious, we must maintain our listening ear. This is hard for man--and by man, I mean woman, too! I did a Google search for how to be a better listener, and found the following tips.
A few more scriptures about listening: ~Psalm 18:6 In my distress I called to the Lord; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears. ~Psalm 5:3 In the morning, Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly. ~Jeremiah 33:3 Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’ ~1 John 5:14 This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. AMEN! Have a blessed week! Kim
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Mom
3/10/2019 02:21:17 pm
That was the funniest video! I’d never seen it before. You chose a great topic. I think we all can be better listeners. As I was writing through the Proverbs over the last several weeks, I realized there are lots of Proverbs about listening. Proverbs 17:28 was the most interesting one and recent one; it says : Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues.
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Kim
3/10/2019 02:53:03 pm
Yes, Mr. Anglin used to say, "it's better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." Sounds like Proverbs.
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Veronica
3/13/2019 06:44:19 am
Yes, we must be active listener. My one of my jobs that I had after Adam came into our lives was being a Family Partner. I supported parents who had child(ren) with special health needs. In my job was crucial that we were active listening. I learned a great deal while I worked that job and I hoped it has carried over in this chapter of life. Being an active listening can be difficult if you don't follow the tips such as eye-to-eye contact and being genuine attentive. Mostly definitely an active listener is not a fixer that's the key. Not seeing the nail at first cause we to listen and see that she frustrated and distress. All she wanted was her husband to listen. Well last night my husband came in to talk to me about his day, I was watching NCIS. I wanted to hear what they were saying but I had to turn to his conversation. I couldn't fix but he just wanted to listen. Yes, we should be active listeners because Our Heavenly Father listens all the time. He is so awesome that He listens one of us individually. No one can do that but Him because He is omnipotent, omnipresent, a promise keeper, faithful and most of He gracious, merciful, and just. We should work on our skills of listening to one another. Be slow to speak and swift to listen that's what James 1 is saying to us.
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I am a wife, mother, educator, and author who, between other duties, enjoys writing. My name is actually Kimberly Griffith Massey. In this blog, I will share some sighting of God's light each week.
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