The maker of the video, Jason Headly, posted a short comment, “‘Don't try to fix it. I just need you to listen.’ Every man has heard these words. And they are the law of the land. No matter what.” I know that there exist differences in how men and women communicate, but I don’t think the need to be heard is solely feminine. Years ago, an uncited study revealed that women speak an average of 20,000 words per day compared to men’s 7,000. Newer research casts doubt on these numbers, indicating that we could speak more similar numbers of words per day, depending on our setting. I believe men need to be heard, too, they have things on their chest, and they need a good listening ear--they just don’t want to share it when the game is on.
To be a good friend, we must be a good listener. To be a good spouse, we must be a good friend. Even when the solution is obvious, we must maintain our listening ear. This is hard for man--and by man, I mean woman, too! I did a Google search for how to be a better listener, and found the following tips.
A few more scriptures about listening:
In my distress I called to the Lord; I cried to my God for help.
From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears.
In the morning, Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly.
Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’
~1 John 5:14
This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.
Have a blessed week!
I am a wife, mother, educator, and author who, between other duties, enjoys writing. My name is actually Kimberly Griffith Massey. In this blog, I will share some sighting of God's light each week.
Author Photo by
Heather G. Rollings, 2017
Cover photo by Carlton Griffith Photography